Via yahoo messenger, with my lovely young friend :
A : So, what did the doctor say ?
B : Hahaha. Do you know what is my strengthness ?
A : Very difficult to say, you almost don’t have any.
B : Huahahahaha JLEB !
A : What is it ? Easily get touching feeling ?
B : Nope .. guess it again. You are already closer.
A : Dunno lah. Let us make it faster. What is it ? I’m already anxious !
B : It’s my sensitivity.
A : Oh .. well .. I also always consider ’sensitivity’ as a plus plus plus if someone has it. I love if all people around me have it. Very ! (the fact is only some have it, the rest lack of it, even the worse … someone who used to have it, but now he is lacking ! What a pity, for me and for him!).
B : Yup. Someone who has good sensitivity can influence people around him.
A : No, it is not how it works in me. I see someone who has it is someone who can ‘read’ mind. He will know what I like and don’t like, what I want and don’t want, what I feel, without me telling him. (And your sensitivity SHOULD be increasing more if you spend your time more with the person .. so bad if it is decreasing -.-’)
B : Oohh.
Not everyone is a mind reader, but everyone does sense : "Perhaps he is sad because of (you fill it), perhaps he is angry because (fill it again), perhaps I have been wrong to her because (fill it !), perhaps he likes this very much, perhaps he will like if I do this, I do that, or or …". It is all unsure since I use "perhaps". But when you are already CLOSE TO the person, it means you do know his habit and character, etc etc. It’s the limit if you don’t have any idea about what is happening. And of course, if you still need the next step, it is : ‘asking’ to make sure your guessing. So when you know something wrong is happening and you don’t know what it is, ask !
Not everyone can show his emotions as good as others. Not everyone has the heart to convey what he really wants although he has been so angry or dissapointed. It’s a fact. Some people do like to keep what they are feeling and settle affairs in their own heart, or trying to forgive without other people ask for forgiveness (of course, with the fact his own opinion is perhaps wrong because he doesn’t discuss it with other parts … then he will judge things by himself huahaha!).
When I am angry or feel dissapointed by a person in someway, actually I will become very lazy to talk with him, not because I want to let him know "Hellow, I am angry with you" or "Hellow, you make me very dissapointed, so I don’t want to talk with you", well many people like to do these kind of stuffs, to make the whole world know what they are feeling. Not to blame, because it is one character people have, difficult to change or probably don’t need to change, if someway they enjoy being that.
A person once said to me : "Have a relationship that can make you comfortable. If they ask you to change something and you feel uncomfortable with it, then don’t do it." I think I have to add his words : " .. if the attitude is not a bad one and people want me to change, it just means I don’t have the compatibility with them, I’m not wrong, they aren’t wrong, what for do I have to change? I won’t ask them to change if they don’t feel comfortable :)." I will go on my way, they will also.
Continue to the story. My laziness comes naturally. Then, I will think. If I cannot tolerate, I will go and talk about it to the person. But if I can, I will control my own feeling, try to understand, and try to forgive. Forgive of course is not the same with ‘forgotten’. ‘Forgotten’ is much more hard to be done as it sometimes still exists whether we want it or not.
But when I am happy, I want to let the whole world know : "I am happy .. very happy, because (of some reasons)" although sometimes I feel happy without any obvious reasons haha. People say : "Happiness is to be shared, sadness not". Disagree! When you feel better if you share the sadness, then do it. Well .. I sometimes feel better, but sometimes I feel worse if I share with other people. So I will just do what I feel comfortable ^_^, a very good advice from a very good friend of mine !
There are some people say that too sensitive is just not good. It is a weakness. I am confused with their definition about it, ’sensitive’ : get angry / feel offended easily or the same with my definition. If it is the first, then of course it is not good. If it’s the second, for me, I think it is 100% good : for having a good sense.
PS :
The bad thing in this world is because everyone has his/her opinions, the worse if we cannot be sure, who is right, who is wrong. It’s one reason why I like mathematics. Hahaha!
Have a nice Sunday !
